ext_40690 ([identity profile] spren-cious.livejournal.com) wrote in [community profile] ship_manifesto2004-08-29 03:54 pm

Buffy/Spike (BtVS)

Reposting for [livejournal.com profile] tallgent


Pairing: Buffy/Spike
Title: Fulfillment in the Hands of Fire
Author: [livejournal.com profile] tallgent
Spoilers: through the end of the BtVS series




Her name is so soft and feminine, with a phonetic resonance with bubbly which suits her personality to a T. His name is hard, aggressive, intimidating. So much two opposites that have no business hooking up let alone fighting on the same side.

But at the same time they are so incongruously alike. She can be hard and ruthless when she wants to be. And deep down inside this brash undead braggart has the soul and sensitivity of a poet. And both of them the bubbly Vampire Slayer named Buffy and the Slayer-killing Vampire punk named Spike can be very, very stubborn.

ANGEL: He's worse. Once he starts something he doesn't stop until everything in his path is dead.
--School Hard; Season 2

WOOD: She got it done.
SPIKE: Always has.
--Storyteller; Season 7

It is this stubbornness that is part of their reason why their story is so compelling. Somehow, someway they always end up together. Whether as enemies, as allies, as lovers. They always end up facing each other. And they love it. Equals who find that each encounter inexplicably ends in a stalemate.

SPIKE: I'd rather be fightin' you anyway.
BUFFY: Mutual.
--What's My Line Pt. II; Season 2

BUFFY: .….And the only person I can even stand to be around is a ...neutered vampire who cheats at kitten poker!
---Flooded; Season 6

I got into it for purely shallow reasons. And it's built around the same reasons why I like Han/Leia or Logan/ Jean Grey. It's built on an adversarial level, and I love that. This kind of back and forth banter that never quits and drives the other person up the wall. I love the idea that Buffy thinks she's won this round, Spike comes up with a finishing barb. And she doesn't say anything, but sneers and walks off. And then she's pitching the mother of all hissy-fits out of his sight and taking it out on a vamp. I love that someone gets so under the skin like that.

But Spike and Buffy went beyond that archetype. It became a truly moving story about a guy struggling against his demons to become better. To become the kind of guy that hopefully will be loved back by the one he has affections for, but to be loved period. And there's something compelling about redeeming the irredeemable. And for Buffy, loving that which is unlovable, in him and in herself. It's not so much a love story in the shallowest term. It's more...resonant of all that we as humans or as even children of God, if that floats your boat, should strive for. Forgiveness. Faith. Hope. And to never underestimate the power of love and the human spirit. And I'd like to think that's why Buffy couldn't articulate very well what she was feeling for Spike. Because it went so far beyond that of simple love. It was holy. It was fulfilling. It's the kind of love that Corinthians states so eloquently.

Love is patient; love is kind and envies no one. Love is never boastful, nor conceited, nor rude; never selfish, not quick to take offense. There is nothing love cannot face; there is no limit to its faith, its hope, and endurance. In a word, there are three things that last forever: faith, hope, and love; but the greatest of them all is love.
Corinthians 1:13

But most of all they work at it. Love is a verb. It is an action. It is work. Spike/Buffy is a relationship that rises and falls, ebbs and flows. They start out as enemies and because of circumstance, become reluctant allies. And when Spike falls for Buffy it just grows from there. Then she discovers she has her own feelings for him. Both of them make baby steps in a new kind of thing that isn't romanticized or glossed over. And it scares them. They suffer. They go through pain. But somehow they grow through it. They help each other along the way. When she stumbles he picks her up and vice versa. And somehow, someway they make it work despite all the pain. Despite their past. They try to save this relationship because they know it's the only thing that can save the both of them.

The most prevalent symbolism of Spike and Buffy's relationship is hands and fire. Hands and fire and define them. Hands were used on each other in brawl after brawl until the brawl turned into a dance. In the closing song in Once More With Feeling, Spike and Buffy are the only ones who have their fingers interlaced, much like their final moment together. In Dead Things, the door scene focused on their hands being separated by the door, but their attachment still evident through the barrier. Then in Potential and beyond things changed, the hands held each other, caressed, fondled, stroked.

Fire has been used to describe Buffy's capacity for love. Spike saves Buffy from burning up in a dance to her death. Throughout the show we get references to the burning passion of live. How it consumes, takes over. After their first moment of having sex, Buffy keeps Spike's lighter as a keepsake, a reminder of the fire he gives her.

And I think we saw this ultimately exemplified in Buffy and Spike in the end when in their revelatory handclasp there is a perfect marriage of hands and fire. For Spike there was fulfillment in loving rather than being loved. There's no malice when he denies her love. He loves her more in that moment than at any other time. And he doesn't regret any of it. Which makes it all the more remarkable. They both fought to reach this peak when it would have been so easy to ignore each other or hate and spite each other. It is so easy to hate, and Lord knows they had plenty of justifiable reasons. But it's such a harder thing, and more courageous thing, to love.

There are literally hundreds of sites on Buffy and Spike. My favorite sites tend more to the intellectual side, which is why I go to Tea at the Ford (http://www.teaattheford.net/index.php), Bloody Awful Poet Society (http://bloodyawfulpoet.com), and Tabula Rasa (http://www.btvs-tabularasa.net). Some great fanfic sites include Buffy/Spike Central (http://www.spuffyonline.com/bscentral), Spuffy Archives for alt-universe fanfic (http://www.spuffyfantasy.com), and www.allaboutspike.com has Spike-centered fic.

Thanks to www.buffyworld.com for use of episode quotes.

Tallgent
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[identity profile] invaderwitch.livejournal.com 2004-08-29 01:15 pm (UTC)(link)
And I think we saw this ultimately exemplified in Buffy and Spike in the end when in their revelatory handclasp there is a perfect marriage of hands and fire. For Spike there was fulfillment in loving rather than being loved. There's no malice when he denies her love. He loves her more in that moment than at any other time. And he doesn't regret any of it.

Gotta love the Buffy/Spike.

[identity profile] tallgent.livejournal.com 2004-08-30 06:31 pm (UTC)(link)
Yes! You can make a solid argument, I think, that Buffy/Spike was the only realtionship to reach a zenith at the end. Spike finds redemption as Buffy's champion. Buffy rediscovers her capacity to love, opens herself to love again. The only diffrence is Spike's life ends at his completion (At least where Buffy the show was concerned.) Buffy hits her peak and is given the oppportunity to share the love that Spike has opened up in her. It's a beautiful message, I think.

Thanks for reading!

Tallgent
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[personal profile] liliaeth 2004-08-29 02:04 pm (UTC)(link)
I love every single word you wrote here, I just couldn't help nodding my head while I was reading...

[identity profile] tallgent.livejournal.com 2004-08-30 06:33 pm (UTC)(link)
Nodding is a good sign. Glad you liked it.

Tallgent

[identity profile] withafireinside.livejournal.com 2004-08-29 02:17 pm (UTC)(link)
This was lovely. I've read your posts on a few Spike boards that I lurk on, and I was happy that you decided to participate here.

[identity profile] tallgent.livejournal.com 2004-08-30 06:36 pm (UTC)(link)
I was encouraged my chums at Cold Dead Seed. Figured I needed to state the Spuffy case. I'm glad you liked it.

Tallgent

[identity profile] spikeylover.livejournal.com 2004-08-29 02:32 pm (UTC)(link)
Tallgent, thanks for posting that. I have always loved your take on the Buffy/Spike relationship.

[identity profile] tallgent.livejournal.com 2004-08-30 06:38 pm (UTC)(link)
And thank you for providing the link and encouragement. I'm glad I could do the Spuffy contingency at CDS proud.

Tallgent

[identity profile] frelling-tralk.livejournal.com 2004-08-29 03:00 pm (UTC)(link)
Thanks for a great essay.

[identity profile] tallgent.livejournal.com 2004-08-30 06:39 pm (UTC)(link)
Thanks for reading, Frelling!

Tallgent
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[identity profile] theantijoss.livejournal.com 2004-08-29 04:11 pm (UTC)(link)
Aw. I had posted some comments on the last one. Just that this was a very compelling essay, and that your discussion of the hands/fire symbolism was interested! Well done.

[identity profile] tallgent.livejournal.com 2004-08-29 04:22 pm (UTC)(link)
I know you did! Your comments meant a lot, thanks. It's interesting how Buffy's definitive relationships on the show were bookended by two vampires with a soul, huh? Loved that show!

Thanks again!

Tallgent
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[identity profile] theantijoss.livejournal.com 2004-08-29 04:26 pm (UTC)(link)
It's interesting how Buffy's definitive relationships on the show were bookended by two vampires with a soul, huh?

And how profoundly a *Slayer* effected them!

Yeah, I'm starting to remember why I loved it myself. ;)

[identity profile] thomasina75.livejournal.com 2004-08-29 05:14 pm (UTC)(link)
Such an excellent essay!

Both of them make baby steps in a new kind of thing that isn't romanticized or glossed over. And it scares them. They suffer. They go through pain. But somehow they grow through it. They help each other along the way. When she stumbles he picks her up and vice versa. And somehow, someway they make it work despite all the pain.

This one passage perfectly sums up why I love this pairing so much. :-)

[identity profile] tallgent.livejournal.com 2004-08-30 06:48 pm (UTC)(link)
Right. What stands out for me is Buffy didn't have to take Spike in like she did. I think she had a legitimate reason to shun him and be impersonal with him. But I love how she commits herself to his well-being. Restoring him (and them) becomes very personal. Seeing him become the good man she knows he can be becomes her personal paramount concern. She may tell the others she needs him for muscle, but to her the reason is very different. And necessary.

Glad you liked it!

Tallgent

Beautiful essay

[identity profile] vs-in-nj.livejournal.com 2004-08-29 07:30 pm (UTC)(link)
Tallgent, as usual this was a beautiful essay on Spike and Buffy's relationship. I loved the part when you said it's easy to hate someone but hard to love! This is very true. I've been married for 17 years and love takes work and patients but worth every minute. I

Re: Beautiful essay

[identity profile] tallgent.livejournal.com 2004-08-31 08:10 am (UTC)(link)
VS,

There's this great dialogue gem I'll never forget from Dead Man Walking where one of the families suffering from the murder of their daughter asks Sister Helen Prejean how she has so much faith. And she replies, "It's not faith, it's work."

So when I was in one of thise deep conversations I had wiht my friends we were discussing love, and I misapplied the quote. But it generated such a great talk about the different aspects of love. I think our society promotes avery facile view of love. That it works from very superficial starting points. And to certain extent, I agree.

But the core of true love is very deep and nourishing. I think that's what was demonstrated in the Season Six and Season Seven arc. You have to think of it as an arc to have any resonance. Spike's feelings for Buffy had already breached the purely physical. It obviously wasn't lust. But Buffy kept it centered to the flesh. No emotional connection. No bond. And when it did get to that point, she cut it off. She ended it. Becuase the things she was doing to him were inexcusable for one who was starting to develop feelings for him. "Last Tango in Paris." Once you develop an emotional connection, it isn't jsut sex from that point. And you better be prepared to deal with the consequences.

I think that's why we didn't get any scenes of sex between them. Because in Season Seven it transcends the flesh into the spirit, the soul. It becomes about healing old wounds. Starting again from a new place and perspective. It's about a mutual understanding and concern for the other. The times when Buffy rushes over to Spike to see if he's okay. It's significant when before Buffy had little or no regard for Spike before, or wasn't supposed to. But everything she does is based out of seeing him treated with dignity, that's why she won't have him in chains in LMPTM. Because she sees the pain and indignity that he is going through as a man--not a vampire with a soul. It is wrong for a man--any man--to be treated this way. And it is intolerable now to see Spike treated this way, not without his consent. Even the Get it Done speech is based on restoration of self. Becoming whole. And I think that's what they gave to each other at the end. Dignity and wholeness. The fulfillment of their true potentials. And if that ain't love, I don't know what is.

Tallgent

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Re: Beautiful essay

[identity profile] vs-in-nj.livejournal.com 2004-08-31 06:40 pm (UTC)(link)
Tallgent, that is why even though I didn't like Buffy telling Spike off in GID I understood why she did. I also felt that when she said to Spike "I'm no where near him." She sounded choked up like she didn't want to say that but she needed Spike to understand she needs his strength and has confidence he wouldn't go bad again. To me that is how love can be at times. Couples in love can fight but always understand that they are still loved. I'm not sure if Spike knew that Buffy was in love with him then but he did know she cared for him more than just a friend.

[identity profile] tallgent.livejournal.com 2004-08-31 08:10 am (UTC)(link)
Thanks for reading. Glad you liked it!

Tallgent
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[personal profile] shapinglight 2004-08-30 03:40 am (UTC)(link)
Great essay. Marvellous explanation of why love is work and why it's so worth undertaking.

[identity profile] tallgent.livejournal.com 2004-08-31 08:12 am (UTC)(link)
I think that's the key. It's not worth something if you don't fight and struggle for it. It may not have been a fairy tale, but it was beautiful. And they made it beautiful.

Tallgent
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[personal profile] shapinglight 2004-08-31 10:24 am (UTC)(link)
I couldn't agree more. All the pain and suffering they went through - even from each other's hands - led to the most amazing trust and belief in each other.

Thinking about it afterwards, it amazes me actually. I've never seen a relationship like that depicted on TV elsewhere.
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Thanks!

[identity profile] moscow-watcher.livejournal.com 2004-08-30 07:34 am (UTC)(link)
Magnificent, insightful essay. Tallgent, I think I'll read and reread it to grasp fully all the ideas you share with us.

I never tried to find deeper meaning in fire visuals. It was just a beautiful but inoriginal metaphor for me. But, as I was reading your essay, I suddenly saw different meaning of OMWF imagery. I rewatched parts of the episode and realized that Sweet's magic works differently for different types of persons. We know nothing about Sweet's previous victims, but we see crucial difference between Buffy's reaction and, say, Xander's reaction to singing. None of the Scoobies is in danger of burning up but Buffy. Why? And why in her "heightened", exalted state she reacts to the truth the way vampire react to sunlight? Is there some deeper meaning? Why did Whedon chose "fiery" type of death for Sweet's victims? Just because it's cinematically impressive or because he wanted to say that there are more similarities between Buffy and Spike they could admit?

And I can't keep out of my head the logical chain: OMWF -> art (music) makes people reveal unpleasant truths that burn and make them die -> both Angel and Spike are artistic persons, one is artist, the other is a poet -> both become vampires and find unpleasant truths about themselves... I definitely see a pattern here.

Maybe it'll become a subject of a separate essay. That's what I love most in your writings. They always provide food for thought. Thanks again.

[identity profile] sunnyd-lite.livejournal.com 2004-09-03 11:07 pm (UTC)(link)
Love is a verb. It is an action. It is work. Spike/Buffy is a relationship that rises and falls, ebbs and flows.

While the essay contained many insights, this is one which often gets lost. The growth of this relationship is what kept me hanging on...with Joss you never know what will happen next.

Buffy is the HAND in the mega slayer...interesting to see how that image continued to play during the series.

hmm more to think about!

(Anonymous) 2005-07-09 06:38 pm (UTC)(link)
Fantastic essay!

[identity profile] effulgentnida.livejournal.com 2005-09-04 10:17 am (UTC)(link)
fantastic! adding it to my favourites