Very cool essay! You definitely summed up why B/F works for me despite my general lack of love for enemy ships - they understand each other better than anyone else can, and they manage to move beyond their animosity.

Adding my fic recs, while I'm posting:
-Bed of Bones (http://www.dymphna.net/historylesson/bedofbones.html) by Roz K.
-My Little Glass Shoe (http://www.dymphna.net/ucsl/archive/insmark-littleglassshoe.txt) by Insomnitic and Mark Bolt.

Also, a fanart site called Reject Reality (http://rr.iridescentglow.com/buffy/buffy_buffyfaith.php) has some really cool backgrounds and manips. Oh, and Shared Destiny (http://buffyfaith.cjb.net/), the Buffy Writers' Guild B/F site, has essays and graphics and fanfiction galore. :)